BREAKING THE SACRED SPARK

So when Winston Churchill says “Success is going from failure to failure without a loss of enthusiasm,” he really does have a point.

At some point or the other, in our drive to success, we would encounter failure. But does that kill our passion?

Now, when we trace it back, what we see is the constancy of purpose formed at the initial stage through motivation. But since motivation isn’t enough and as it ebbs and flows in a continuous flux dependent on our emotional state at any one time, we must develop the discipline of creating successful habits.

At this stage, we have so internalised certain behaviours that we now run on auto-pilot. But even habits can be broken.

So we again develop discipline to stay true to successful habits. This is character. And it is conscious.

How many times have we been so excited about a new idea or something we just began? We are thrilled, we climb up an emotional peak and decide we will do so and so to get so and so. And then, after a while we find ourselves going slowly backwards to where we were at the start.

Now, listen to Cavett who says, “Character is the ability to carry out a good resolution long after the excitement of the moment has passed.”

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Let’s move on.

Naturally, people are wired to treasure the bird in hand over two in the bush. The question then is, are you worth the gamble?

Yesterday, it was something more than innovation. Today, it is another dot in the picture.

Can you see the pattern? Can you join the dots?

Breaking the Sacred Spark is simple. But whoever said it was easy?

© Breaking the Sacred Spark

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BREAKING THE SACRED SPARK

Now, one favourite question that helps me most prove this point is the one about mountains,

“Before MOUNT EVEREST was discovered, what was the highest mountain in the world?”

Answer this before you read on.

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Seth Godin has some rather interesting things to say about this too. “You’re either boring or you stand out. You’re either invisible or remarkable. And, all your life, everyone has been pushing you to fit in. All your life you’re told to keep your head down, work hard, don’t make waves and get it done. What rubbish.”

Yes. What rubbish.

John Obidi has this very fine phrase I find appropriate. Be Phenomenal or Be Forgotten. There really is not a middle ground. If you aren’t phenomenal, you will be forgotten. Simple.

At work. In business. People would tell you not to be dramatic. Not to be different. They will tell you they want the familiar. But you know what? Most often, they don’t know what they want.

A quip, erroneously attributed to Henry Ford goes, “If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses.” But he gave them the car. And they bought it. A lot of it.

People say they want you to blend in and just be normal. But they would always choose those who stand out.

Some people have this very terrible deception that guides their lives- if you are doing a great job, that should be enough. They believe that reality should beat perception. But that is their perception. And it does not reflect reality.

If people don’t think you’re doing a great job, and can’t be made to see that, someone else would get all the credit you think you deserve.

Not fair? It’s the way the world works.

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Okay, have you answered the question about the mountain? Well I have told you the answer already. Look again at all I have written. It is in here somewhere- the only thing that “stands out” from the rest of the text.

If you still haven’t gotten it, I may be able to help you.

© Breaking the Sacred Spark

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NOW THAT YOU’RE A MAN

Dear Mr Man,

This is my final letter to you for the present.

Have you heard of the man they call Apostle Paul? He once wrote a letter to the church in Corinth where he said something I have always found inspiring. “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I reasoned like a child, I understood like a child; now that I have become a man, I am done with childish ways and have put them aside.”

At some point during your growth into manhood, Mr Man, you must be able to say to yourself, “When I was a boy, these things fascinated me. These are the things that took most of my time. I was a slave to these things. But as I have grown older into manhood, I have shed these things and assumed a toga of responsibility.”

What may some of these things be? Perhaps I should share.

1. Boys THINK like boys. They exhibit a curious blend of extremes. On the one hand, they are gullible and believe the first thing they are told on any subject. On the other hand, as soon as they accept that fixed thought into their heads, it becomes a herculean task to dislodge it and give them superior information. Boys do not reason for themselves. Boys are the most closed-minded people you can find. You see them everywhere, arguing for arguing sake, like children, without a point.

Mr Man, I know you are not like this. You are a man.

2. Boys SPEAK like boys. The distance between their brains and their mouths is virtually infinitesimal. Whatever occurs to them, they don’t filter. They just open their mouths and spill it out. Boys don’t understand that there is a time to speak and a time to be silent. Every time is a time to talk. They feel it is a duty to fill up every silence- whether what they have to say is relevant or not.

Mr Man, I know you are not like this. You are a man.

3. Boys ACT like boys. When boys take actions, they have a disjointed sense of time, actions and consequences. Their actions, per time, are determined by their feelings- not guided by an understanding of time, the demands of their future, or long term consequences. Indeed, boys have an extremely brief time-sense. Short-term benefits becloud long-term considerations.

Mr Man, I know you are not like this. You are a man.

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Mr Man, if the boy you were, meets the man you are becoming, would he be proud? Would he tell you, “I might have had some boyish dreams, but I love this reality you are making happen”?

Mr Man, it really doesn’t matter much what you used to be. What matters most is who you are becoming. What matters is that you deliberately choose to consistent and never-ending improvement. I hope, every day, you are putting one foot in front of the other in a conscious decision to move forward despite whatever happens to you. I hope you are keeping your goals in perspective and your dreams alive. I hope you understand that as you live, you learn, you may fall but you must rise, you may make mistakes but you must make amendments, you may start small, but you mustn’t remain small. What happened to growing big?

Mr Man, I wish you strength for life’s challenges and wisdom to handle the storms. I wish you discernment to pick your friends wisely, to choose your battles, to pick your allies. I wish you steady advancement in the pursuit of your dreams. I wish you fulfillment in life.

Mr Man, however harsh I may sound sometimes, I hope you know it’s for the best.

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BE A MAN

Dear Mr Man,

“How are you sir? I want to share a true life story. It happened in my days in FUTA.

This boy, let us call him Solomon Grandy, used to be someone we all knew in the SUG. One day, we were having a meeting when the president got a call that an emergency had occurred and he was needed. He rushed off home.

What actually happened?

Solomon Grandy had just received the most terrible news of his life. And he had swallowed some pills to kill himself.

No, his business hadn’t crashed. He didn’t even have a business. No, his whole family hadn’t been killed by mysterious thunder from above. No, he hadn’t been expelled from the university.

His girlfriend had just broken up with him. So he took some pills to kill himself rather than commit suicide.

And that was nearly the end of Solomon Akpors Grandy, but for the timely intervention of people who rushed him to the health centre.

For. A. Girl.”

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People can be funny. Very funny.

You, Mr Man, what can make you contemplate the suicide option?

Ok, I know, sometimes, it just seems everything that can possibly go wrong is already going wrong in your life. Things are falling apart and your best attempts don’t seem to yield any results.

But giving up is never the answer. Neither is running away. Boys may be allowed to run away and throw tantrums when faced with tough issues. But you don’t have that luxury.

Mr Man, be a man.

Every challenge has an answer. It helps to find the right people too.

Mr Man, you cannot know how strong you are, until you are taken to task.

Handle Your Challenges. Like a Man.

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SHE LOVES THE GOOD THINGS OF LIFE

Dear Mr Man,

I got your request yesterday. You got my response, I believe?

This morning, I am writing to you on something of a follow-up to yesterday’s first letter.

You see, I believe that there are some girls who have built themselves into a walking, ‘prettified’ version of human mental invalids. These are the ones who think they cannot think or survive on their own, much less thrive on their own. These ones depend on men for everything- from the Brazilian hair on their coconut heads; to the eyelashes on their visionless eyes to the fixed nails on their idle hands; to the clothes on their lazy bodies.

Mr Man, from this girls, flee- with the back of your legs touching the back of your head.

But Mr Man, this is NOT a LICENSE for LAZINESS on your part.

I have seen EXTREMELY LAZY MEN LOSE WOMEN OF VALUE in their lives yet say three funny things.

1. Whatever is rightfully mine, nobody can take from me. [Mr Man, have you never heard of Godogodo, the one-eyed armed robbery czar who terrorised Lagos and other south-west states, taking what rightfully belonged to others? People can take what is rightfully yours. But in this case, Mr Man, nobody took her. She saw your perpetual laziness and advised herself wisely.]

2. If you love her, let her go. If she comes back, she is yours. [Mr Man, who are you deceiving? People are moving forward, you’re waiting for her to come backwards. She was yours. But she’s gone. And if she knows what she is doing, she isn’t coming backwards.]

3. Any woman who leaves a man of vision to date a boyfriend with television will one day watch that man of vision on her boyfriend’s television. [What kind of “-ision” motivational quote are you consoling yourself with? Keep making yourself happy. The wise woman has found out that you don’t have “VI” not to talk about “SION”]

Look here Mr Man… women, like men, love the good things of life. And women of vision and value, willing to work, invest, reach for their goals and not give excuses, won’t stay long with a lazy man whose only possession is his “big dreams” and no results or positive actions.

Eagles congregate with eagles. Only eagles.

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DO YOU LOVE WOMEN?

Dear Mr Man,

Yes, it is me again.

Without wasting too much time, I want to quickly talk about women. I love women. A lot. In fact, it took me a long time to finally accept this truth about myself, but as soon as I did, I embraced it. I love women.

What about you? Do you love women?

No, you miss the point, Mr Man. I am not talking about girls. I am talking about women. No, not age. I am talking about a certain kind of essence and maturity women have but girls don’t. There’s just something unique and powerful about women.

Girls are often attracted to boys. Women are often attracted to men. Ok, some girls may be attracted to men too. But women are rarely attracted to boys.

You, who do you attract? Which do you find attractive, girls or women?

Could you do yourself a favour? Assess the female[s] in your life. Are they girls or women?

You will know know a woman by the quality of the conversations you have. Girls talk nonsense, only nonsense and nothing but nonsense. And boys love that. But men understand the value of time and purpose. So they connect with women who have a destination.

[If you request, I shall send you a list that details the other differences between girls and women].

You see, there is that kind of man that carries a bucket of poop on his head and is complaining about flies. The flies are not the problem. Your heap of poop is the problem. Get rid of the poop, and the flies would go away.

Who you are determines the kinds of females which you find attractive and who are attracted to you.

Why do you keep complaining that the girls in your life are “hoes”? Are you a cutlass? Why do you complain of gold diggers? Are you a labourer? Why do you complain that the females in your life have fish brain? Are you a tilapia?

Mr Man, change who you are and the people you attract will change.

Grow up.

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WALKING SEX TOOLS

Dear Mr Man,

Today, again, let us be a little more blunt, shall we?

What do you see females as? Walking sex tools existing for the sole reason of satiating your sexual perversions?

When you see a lady, what are the very first things that occur to you? That she is okay or not, depending on the size of her breasts or the sheer volume of her butts? Do you reduce her to her sexual organs? Do you plot the shortest way between her and your bed?

Mr Man, is this all you see? Then you are blind.

Is this what you do? Then you are despicable.

And shame on you.

You should have a brain. And it should be in your head, not down there.

I do know that there are girls who are hare-brained enough to think that the entire expression of their whole being is trapped in their sexuality; who understand that their only claim to sustained interest is in putting their bodies on display.

But this is not about them, Mr Man. This is about YOU. What happened to building your women and enhancing their dreams? What happened to being a support and an enabler? What happened to being invested in bringing out the very best in your woman and being self assured enough to not be intimidated when she begins to soar higher than your imagination? What happened to being the man she can call at any time of day or night and she knows that you would not only listen to her, but you would give sensible solutions to her deeply troubling questions?

Mr Man, what happened to being a man?

Are you man enough to be a man?

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oregon_humanities_editorial_illoIS EXPERIENCE REALLY IMPORTANT? 4

1. There are people who have experienced several things but have not learned anything of value that should be transferred as knowledge. Some of them have even experienced appreciable success but don’t even know what they did to get there, how they got there or what principles worked for them.

But they share what they THINK worked for them, peddling false knowledge that may backfire on another person who tries it.

2. Then there are people who have knowledge of principles without experiencing it themselves. They will tell you what Einstein said, and what Lincoln did. They will describe how Gandhi lived and how Mother Theresa died. And then, based on someone else’s experience, they tell you how you too can make your own life great.

Like the street book hawker who is selling “21 Ways to be a Billionnaire in 21 days” and can quote all the lines and principles in the book to you off hand, but is still 6 solid digits shy of being a billionaire.

3. And then there are those who have SOUND KNOWLEDGE of PRINCIPLES. They have put these principles to work in their own lives, and have EXPERIENCED RESULTS for themselves.

Number 3.

Those are the people you should listen to.

From experiences, learn the right lessons. From failures and successes, learn the right principles. And get results.

So yes, experience is important- only when you learn the RIGHT LESSONS. It helps too to have RESULTS to show. And to understand the APPLIED PRINCIPLES that got you those results.

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